Wedding planning really comes with its own set of rules and etiquette that is unmatched by other formal events. There is so much to consider and so many things that you have to keep in mind for your wedding day and it can be really difficult to keep track of it all. When you have a wedding coordinator by your side, we are able to help you through a lot of the common questions that couples have when it comes to wedding planning. Here are 6 of the most common questions that comes with wedding etiquette.

1. Should I give a Plus One?

Most etiquette rules say that you don’t necessarily have to give everyone a plus one - people who have been in a relationship for a year or more should get one as well as anyone that is already married, but after that it’s technically up to you. Now if you have some friends that aren’t in committed relationships that really don’t know anyone else at the wedding, it is hard for them to want to come as much if they feel like they are going to be flying solo for the evening. We recommend giving a plus one to people that might be stuck all alone on the wedding as a courtesy, but it’s not required if it’s something that you don’t want to do. You do have to keep in mind though that the guests that don’t get a plus one might be less likely to come to your wedding because of this though, so if it’s someone you really want there, we’d say it’s best to give them a plus one.

2. Should I allow Children?

This discussion is completely up to you! Many people will set an age limit for guests, minus some nieces, nephews, or other children of honor. If they are older than 13, they are a lot more likely to not cause your typical “children issues” like rough housing, damages to the space, or screaming. As long as you let your guests know well in advance what your parameters are (for example, writing “adult only reception” on the invitation, having an FAQ on your wedding website about how the adults should enjoy a night out, writing on the RSVP who exactly is invited, and telling guests specifically whether or not you would like them to bring their children), they should be understanding of your wishes. Along the same lines as the plus one question, some families will not be able to get a sitter or not want to be away from their children for any reason (if they are young, if they need extra attention, etc.) and might RSVP “no” to your wedding unless they can bring their kids. This is something you just have to keep in mind or give certain people special instructions, but the more kids that are allowed, the more the people who aren’t allowed to bring their kids will argue.

3. Should I provide Transportation?

This is a personal preference, however with certain venues it is definitely extra considerate! If you're getting married in a place that doesn’t have easily accessible parking, this is definitely something we recommend. Having shuttles for your guests from a hotel you have a room block at is definitely very nice for your guests who also aren’t used to city driving, for example. If you aren’t having a specific room block, we say you probably don’t need to worry about this because having a shuttle go to multiple hotels, unless they are right next to each other, gets really complicated not only for your guests but also for the drivers. We do recommend a shuttle back to the hotel at the end of the night if you can though, because having intoxicated guests without a safe way to get home can be worrisome.

4. Do we need to Invite People from the Wedding Shower to the Wedding?

If you plan on having a wedding shower and don’t know who to invite, we highly recommend keeping it to the people that will also be at the wedding. It’s a little off-putting to ask for a party where you are given gifts by people who aren’t actually going to celebrate with you on your wedding day. If you do have anyone that is looking to get a gift for you but you don’t want to invite them, you can always link them to your registry instead. However, if your coworkers or someone else is throwing you a shower, that’s a little different if they are doing it FOR you rather than being invited to a shower they aren’t putting together.

5. Do I have to Invite someone I don’t Like?

The short, simple answer: no! However, we know there are a lot more factors to consider with this. If it’s a close family member you don’t get along with but your mom will be upset if you don’t invite them, there are definitely other factors at play. Sometimes, it is worth not having an eternal headache by just inviting these type of guests. You may end up hearing from your mom about how Aunt Sally should have been at your wedding forever, so you really have to weigh the pros and cons with this, and even with who you will have in your wedding party.

6. Is there a way to Post our Registry without being Tacky?

Most people expect you to have a registry, so it usually isn’t tacky! We recommend putting it on a wedding website so those people who plan on buying you a gift can access it as they please. We definitely don’t recommend putting the link on your wedding invitation, however you can add an extra informational card that has a link to your wedding website “for more information”. On your wedding shower invitation, you can add the link to the wedding website as well, as most people attending your shower will likely need that link.

Hopefully this helps you feel like you know what is to come with the wedding day logistics! There are so many more etiquette questions and we barely scratched the surface, so if you have additional questions you can reach out to us here and we are happy to fill you in on whatever you need help with!