How to Plan your Wedding as a People Pleaser
We know how it is around here - people pleasing is a really hard trait to have when you are starting to plan your wedding day. You generally just want everyone to be happy, and sometimes that comes at your own expense. It’s important to remember that your wedding day is your day to celebrate your love, and there will likely be some tough spots in your planning journey if your family and friends are used to you following their lead and making them happy. As people pleasers ourselves, here are some tips that you should remember to help you with planning a wedding that pleases you first.
List YOUR priorities
Even if your priorities are that your family and friends have a good time at your wedding, there will absolutely be some elements of your wedding day that you want to happen no matter what. Make sure to start planning by sitting down with your future spouse and plan out what are the most important elements of your wedding day that you must have, so you know what you will be firm on moving forward.
Set Boundaries from the Start
If you are worried about your family and friends swaying your opinions on your firm priorities, let them know before the conversations get too much in the weeds about what is really important for you to have on your wedding day and don’t want other people’s opinions on. You can of course let other people tell you their thoughts, but let it be known that your wedding is your day and you have certain things you plan on doing no matter what.
Still Ask their Opinions
People generally want to feel wanted and needed, so your family and friends will appreciate you reaching out to them with questions or advice if you need it. Even if you don’t follow exactly what they say, they may have some ideas that are actually helpful and this will help make them feel more appreciated throughout the wedding planning journey!
Blame your Wedding Coordinator
When things come up that your family and friends don’t like, remember that you can always fall back and blame a wedding vendor! We definitely don’t mind being the excuse for something that means a lot to you that your family and friends aren’t understanding. If you want to have a DJ instead of a live band and your parents are pushing for it, let them know the venue doesn’t have enough space and your coordinator said that DJs are cheaper and better at working a crowd. If all else fails, it’s much easier for them to have someone else to point their finger at that isn’t you!
Still Plan a Day that’s Extra Fun for Everyone
It’s only natural that you’ll want to focus on your family and friends also enjoying your wedding day. You can add elements of your wedding day that really focus on the guest experience, such as live entertainment vendors (like live painters, magicians, musicians, etc.), wedding favors that they actually will like (like photo booths, food, etc.), and making sure the day is smooth for everyone (with hiring a coordinator, doing a first look for the timeline to be easier, hiring shuttles to the hotel, or having your ceremony and reception in the same place are some ideas!). That way your guests will still feel loved and appreciated on your wedding day and you will be able to enjoy the day with everyone!
It can be difficult to plan a wedding when you have always been a people pleaser, but with these tips you should be able to have a more enjoyable planning experience as well as the actual wedding day. It’s important to make sure you prioritize yourselves first for your wedding because you will always have the strongest memories of your wedding and you should be able to look back at it with a smile instead of regret for only listening to other people.
If you need some additional help making sure your wedding day is smooth so you can actually have fun with your family and friends, head to our contact page and we can ensure you and everyone else at the wedding has a wonderful time celebrating you and your love!
